How to Help a Dog with Separation Anxiety

Dogs are our loyal companions, so it’s not surprising that they can feel anxious when they’re separated from their loved ones. Separation anxiety in dogs is a common problem that can lead to unwanted behaviors, like destructive chewing, howling, or peeing around the house. Luckily, there are things you can do to help your dog better handle time alone.

What are the signs?

Dogs with separation anxiety may act fidgety or stressed, particularly as you’re getting ready to leave. For instance, they might whine, act very clingy, or pace back and forth near the door. Other signs of separation anxiety can include:

All of these behaviors can be stressful for dogs and their families. They can even lead to dog parents giving up their four-legged friends to another home or shelter out of frustration. This is one of the reasons why ASPCA Pet Health Insurance offers coverage for behavioral conditions. This coverage reimburses dog parents for the costs of treating these issues, which can encourage them to seek professional assistance before considering a drastic action.

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What causes separation anxiety?

It’s not completely understood why some dogs have separation anxiety, but it is thought to be more prevalent in dogs who have been adopted from shelters than those raised by a single family since they were puppies. This isn’t necessarily related to a dog’s experience at the shelter. The dog might have been brought to the shelter because of issues with separation anxiety and then has the same problems when placed in a new home. It also often comes up as a reaction to changes in lifestyle or routine, such as:

If your family will be experiencing one of these situations, you can help your dog by trying to keep things as familiar as possible. For instance, in the case of moving to a new home, you can maintain your dog’s feeding schedule and even put food and water bowls in a similar location to your old residence. It’s also helpful to bring older items, like your dog’s favorite pet bed or toys, rather than getting new ones right away.

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Can it be treated?

Yes, separation anxiety can be treated. In some cases, you may simply need to wait for your dog to get used to a new situation. In other cases, you may need to be more proactive and try out strategies like these to help your dog.

1. Desensitize Your Dog to Your Departure

This is a process where you gradually get your dog comfortable with being left home alone. Basically, you repeat an activity, such as picking up your keys or opening the coat closet, but not leaving until your dog can watch you do it without getting anxious or upset. It takes a lot of patience and certainly isn’t for everyone. If you want to try desensitization, it can be helpful to enlist professional help from a dog trainer, certified applied animal behaviorist, or a veterinary behaviorist.

2. Avoid Reinforcing Certain Behaviors

Ignore attention-seeking behaviors, like whining or bumping up against your legs, while you’re getting ready to leave the house. If you respond to these types of behaviors, it will only encourage your dog to do them more. After all, they work!

3. Keep Arrivals and Departures Calm

Even if you hate the idea of leaving your four-legged friend, do your best to stay calm as you say goodbye. If you make a big deal about leaving, it can amplify your dog’s anxiety over being left home alone. Speak quietly in a relaxed voice and give your dog a simple pat on the head as you go out.

Similarly, make sure you keep things calm when you come back home. If your dog is jumping up and down or doing a crazy four-legged greeting dance, it’s best not to encourage them. Wait for your dog to calm down and put four paws on the floor before you greet them.

4. Wear Out Your Dog Before You Go

Exercise is a great remedy for anxiety and can help relieve feelings of boredom and frustration that might be exacerbating the situation. Take your dog for a long brisk walk, play a game of fetch, or engage in an energetic round of tug of war before you go out. This way, you can leave behind a calmer, more content pooch.

5. Feed Your Dog Before You Leave

Just like exercise, a full belly can help your dog feel satisfied and relaxed. Schedule a mealtime before you need to leave the house for the day. You can also hide some treats around the house for your dog to discover during the day.

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6. Leave a Puzzle Treat

Make it a point to give your dog a treat filled puzzle toy right before you leave the house. This can help your dog associate the joy and excitement of getting a toy with you going out the door. Plus, it will help keep them occupied while you’re gone.

7. Crate Your Dog

Dogs who are properly crate trained will be more comfortable when left in their safe and cozy den. You can leave the crate door open so your dog can come in and out as they please. If you choose to close the crate, make sure your dog has access to water while you’re gone.

8. Turn on the TV

Leave the TV on for your dog when you go out. The lights and noises can be comforting and make your dog feel a little less lonely. The nature channel is a good choice if your dog enjoys watching other animals. Putting the radio on a soothing station can also be helpful if you don’t want the TV on all day.

9. Hire a Dog Walker

If you’re going to be gone longer than usual or your dog just can’t seem to manage while you’re away, you should consider hiring a dog walker. You can also ask a trusted neighbor or friend to stop in and spend a little time with your dog, if possible. Doggie day care is another option. It can be more costly, but it lets your dog spend the day romping around with their four-legged friends rather than being lonely and possibly getting into trouble at home.

10. Seek Professional Help

Veterinarians and certified applied animal behaviorists are great resources to help with separation anxiety in dogs. They can help with desensitization or recommend other behavioral techniques to solve the issue. Medications that treat depression or reduce anxiety can also be helpful although they’re typically reserved for more severe cases and should be combined with behavior modification techniques. These kinds of medications along with other treatments for separation anxiety can be covered by an ASPCA Pet Health Insurance plan.

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Have a cat?

Just like dogs, our fine feline friends can suffer from separation anxiety, and they can benefit from a lot of the same advice. For instance, keep your departures and arrivals low key, wear your cat out or feed them before you go, and give them something to occupy themselves with while you’re gone. There are lots of safe cat toys on the market that your cat can play with on their own or make one yourself. You can also leave behind a toy mouse filled with catnip or a few balls for them to bat around.

Considering Costs

Managing the costs associated with an issue like separation anxiety might not be something you considered when you brought your dog or cat home. There can be expenses for medications and treatments, which an ASPCA Pet Health Insurance plan can cover, as well as money needed for things like replacing the couch cushions your dog chewed up while feeling anxious. Read more about the hidden costs of pet parenting.


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